Felt safety while being yourself

I shared in a post, how a friend/client described my business as “felt safety and spiritual growth”: https://www.instagram.com/p/DFGkr6-xz5Y/?igsh=YThuYTdscmtveGRp

I liked it, until I wrote about it. Then the spiritual growth part didn’t sit well with me. I am not trying to grow anyone. They will grow when they feel safe, know who they are, and who they are trying to be (Human Design, Gene Keys, Soul Contract, and natal Astrology help us to know what this is).

Not everyone can accept all aspects of what I have to offer (especially Divine Healing and the Information field, while some won’t accept RestoreChi). This is why I previously used the levels of the brain to describe how the modalities I use fit together: https://www.yourlifeplan.ca/post/the-trauma-of-not-being-seen-and-the-layers-of-my-services-mapped-onto-the-levels-of-the-brain

People need what they need, and will turn away from whatever is lacking the component that they seek (in my experience, they are seeking company, and they feel threatened when they have to process too much on their own, because of their past experience, they are unable to use information to help them feel confident).

It can be hard, when I want to shift someone, from where they are stuck, to something they are not open to yet. In these cases, I try to stay with where they are stuck, and sometimes I learn something about what they are trying to do. This is how I raise kids too!

Thinking about this image:

…not everyone’s “true self” is chiseled and thin. I know plenty of people who are thin, and who don’t hold onto enough, to be able to do the work. While others take on so much (weight) that they give up.

I can be hard on myself, for yo-yo-ing with my weight and body size, but that can be what we are supposed to do. Instead of trying to keep things under control, we take stuff on, process it when we can, and learn to better self care, when we discover how much work it is, to undo our mis-takes.

Some people are stuck with too much or too little, because mainstream practices cut so many important pathways, with drugs and surgeries (not to mention programming and conditioning). That doesn’t make drugs and surgery wrong, it’s like gambling, or picking a zit, sometimes you win and sometimes you take on something that takes a lot of work to heal, or to work around if you can’t.

Body composition and kirlian photography can tell us a lot about how a person is doing life, and where they are stuck.

Balance and health come from movement not staying in the one perfect place. Success can look different for everyone, depending on their life path.

We attract everything we need to learn our next step. No one can undo this for us, all we can do, is learn how to do what is needed, without stirring up more reaction, than what supports our growth.

We can blame the situation, as if it is affecting everyone the same, but none of us are truly having the same experience, we act differently, depending on our life lesson.

A friend sent me something recently, because she thought I was “fixated” on attachment theory. Judging by my recent articles, I’d say I’m currently using “felt safety” as a way to understand many things (as well as perimenopause, cancer, and diet/weightloss).

That said, what I am sharing here is very avoidant, because it is not about seeking safety in others, but rather finding a way to feel safe regardless of what others may need. While at the same time, learning to be less avoidant myself, so I can provide more felt safety for my clients and friends.

Knowing who we are, and acting in alignment with ourselves. Sometimes we will trigger others to react in ways that threaten between felt safety. Sometimes we will try to offer repair, sometimes we won’t. There is big movement lately that tells us to spend more time with people who make us feel good, while at the same time, there is another movement that says “check in on friends, to make sure they are doing ok”.

The safer we feel, the more we can explore, whether we can do things differently, to prevent others from being triggered, and whether this is more aligned with who we truly are. As part of who we think we are, is not us, but rather our unprocessed conflict/attachments that Esogetic Medicine can help us process and release.

Those are my 8 primary modalities.

I hope this is helpful.