I was forced to take a break while writing this article, because I ended up with an injury that I am still working on trying to heal. Then I published it, and some how lost 1hr49min worth of edits...
I'll try my best to recreate...
I read Blink because anyone with right pointing arrows in their human design takes in and shares information in a way that is opposite from what everyone assumes. The arrrows have a 50% chance of pointing left or right, so assuming everyone is left, makes no sense. It just feels more comfortable to assume everyone points left, and to disregard how pointing right can be a gift.
Blink also describes autism as interpreting social cues the same way one would interpret object cues.
If this is the case, we should be able to do a simple brain scan, to determine what part of the brain a person is using to process social cues, and if they are using the object cues portion of their brain, they are autistic. In the absence of a brain scan, we can also observe where the person looks for information, if it's not the eyes of the people in front of them, if they cannot determine that gestures like pointing mean look here, and they look everywhere because there were no specific verbal directions on where to look, then they are probably also autistic.
Pretty straightforward, given so many people are trying to leverage the autism diagnosis, because it gives them an excuse to be who they are.
It is possible, that what is preventing some people from using the social cues area of their brain is multifaceted, as we develop whatever areas of our brain serve us best, given the type of life we expect to live, based on our experiences during conception, prenatally, and in the first 6 years of life (when we have no ability to keep out what is not ours to take in).
Blink also provides a theory for temporary autism, where a person's heart rate goes above a certain level, and they become unable to hear, and unable to see, beyond what they think is a threat.
This is probably where my youngest falls, though I personally prefer terms like "lack of felt safety" or "a vulnerable nervous system with behavioral symptoms".
How each of us responds is valid, and it is up for debate whether people should be ok with being forced.
Do we need to accept that all our needs will not be met because we are trying to do something big as a collective (like funneling through an airport in order to travel by plane, or running a public school system)?
Some people are able to find ways to meet their needs, without harming others (like running the opposite way on an empty moving walkway to expel pent up energy, and demanding juice at the first store once we get off the plane, because liquids are not allowed past security, sometimes we don't have time to buy drinks before we board the plane, and serving drinks on a plane is slow, and they don't allow for take aways, everyone gets their small amount and that's it).
If everyone did what they needed to do it would be chaos, but the social agreements often result in no one getting their needs met, and people becoming upset, when they see others have found a way to get what they need.
I had an interesting conversation with a child at a party yesterday, where he wanted to use some of what my youngest was using. The more he tried to take, the more she tried to hoard. He told me that "she has to share", I told him that "she does not". He mentioned he was afraid of dogs, I asked him why, and then shared that he should probably be afraid of my youngest for the same reason, as she gets aggressive if you try to take things from her. My youngest and this kid eventually found a way to become friends, once they read the rules to the bouncy castle together, and they both realized that people break some of the rules, some of the time, even they do, sometimes it's ok and sometimes it's not. I get it, parents want to teach their kids how to be, but that doesn't mean this is how everyone is, or should be.
Let's enter a quote from the psychological boundaries book shown below:
Part of reading this book on psychological boundaries is to help me cope with public school and people who push mainstream parenting. My parents were also not very good at boundaries, and I grew up as a visible minority. I wish the way we were taught about restoration and inclusion was from a perspective of wholeness, leaving things intact, rather than through division (and the assumption of hate). But that's beside the point.
The quote above is a good reminder for me, as I am often having to transition from practitioner to friend. As a practitioner, it is my role to identify the pattern the person is engaged in, that is creating the repeating situation that they don't want to be in anymore. However, as a friend, it is far better to let their gut feelings guide them, and only bare witness to their unfolding, as opposed to trying to change how they feel (which Terrain Therapy, also imaged above, says is a major contribution to why people are sick, and that if a child is sick, it is the parent who needs to heal). Thankfully Esogetics is a good segue, in that it lightens the impact of the past, so that the person can be more aware of what is happening to them in the present, and maybe they will see there are far more options available to them, than the one they keep trying. While it is hard to hear someone continue do things that keep them stuck, no one can replace the feelings they have, as their best guide. Even knowing their human design, soul contract, gene keys, and astrology is not enough.
My human design states that I am a leader, curious, and able to develop deep skills, who can guide others, only when invited, and that I should expect the unexpected. My soul contract says that I am to be a teacher of teachers at the highest level, learning about myself through difficult relationships, expressing myself through writing, holding wisdom that people can see, which expands further the more people work with me, and that I will do this in an expanded way, that impacts society at large. And my astrology shows that my communication is expanded, I am used to doing things on my own, this time I have to learn to bring others along, in unequal relationships, that have an impact on my physical health, there will be beauty and power in what I do, my work is to be fun and on stage, working one on one to focus on the uniqueness of each life, I will put my energy into families, I need a lot of time on my own, because there are hidden enemies, and part of how I present myself is as someone who has been wounded. Do you think I can do all that, without being guided moment to moment by how I feel, relative to what lessons I have and have not yet understood? It's the same for everyone.
Blink shares that if people can keep their heart rate in the middle high range, then they can slow down time and see everything, like being in the zone, knowing exactly what to do, and having all the time needed to suppress their instincts, so they can make a calculated choice. Kind of like the psycho-spiritual concept of creating a gap between action and reaction, or what the psychological boundary book above calls "keeping the brain integrated".
While Blink suggests that repeated exposure and practice will get the person to stop falling into temporary autism, this is something the person has to choose for themselves, as a skill that they want to acquire. When you remove choice, you remove agency and, depending on their world view, you can traumatize them again.
Another aspect of Blink, that I found applicable to Esogetics, is that too much information can lead to bad decisions. Blink shared how the doctors at the hospital that inspired the hit TV show ER were appalled when they were given a decision tree to follow when someone comes in with a suspected heart attack. This is because what they were doing without the decision tree was time consuming, costly, and often wrong, because doctors focus too much on details that are less relevant than they think. Using the decision tree frees them up to make other decisions like: if not this then what, and how to treat... The same applies for Esogetics. If I try to resolve too much at once, the outcome is not as good as if I just trust the process, treat what is uppermost, and then sometimes the entire picture opens up, clears, and balances. And it is up to the client to see what this brings into their life. With the blocks removed, do they recreate their symptoms, and if so, that's ok. And sometimes we need to try a different door next time, because what we thought would work didn't, but maybe it gave us more information.
Mainstream medicine and education operate the way they do because they are trying to allocate limited resources. I am fortunate not to need their services, and grateful they are there when I want to use them. I know that I am being "handled" by the school when I try to share information with them, and I don't like it. But this gives me a good opportunity to remember and practice my psychological boundaries, which we are all entitled to. I also have limited resources, where my family and my health take a lot of time (but this is also part of my training).
Two more things that stood out for me in Blink...
First, good improve actors always say YES AND. This allows them to 1) overcome the tendency most people have to say no to the things they don't want, which makes them rigid to what life brings, and 2) allows them to side step making a decision. You don't have to decide if you are ok with what life is bringing you. This is what life is bringing you, it just is, be open to it, and navigate it as best you can. Stop fighting the current. Life is trying to show you something. That said, this is how I cope with life and why I built my business, it may not be how you choose to cope with your life and my services may not be what you seek. And I do see the oxymoron, of putting this concept in the same article about people doing what works for them, even if it's not what others do.
And second, Blink shares that an expert can explain why they choose this or that but a novice will make worse decisions when they are asked to explain why. This is probably why some people can be good at describing their symptoms and how they change over time, and others can be terrible at it. Experts are not fooled by the first sip or thrown off by what is different or weird. They see more in the first few hints (this is what having arrows that point right in human design means) and this allows them to make more solid decisions. This is a lot like my business too, I specialize in the patterns of life inside and outside of the body. I can see them a mile away. My symptoms (and life experiences) inform me the way I wish other people could be informed by their symptoms and life experience. It still sucks to be told you are going the wrong way through illness, pain, or losing all your recent edits in a document you were working on, but this is life. The journey continues for us all, no one gets a free pass. I hope this helps.
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