I was speaking with the principal and founder of an alternative school that wants to focus more on healing. She left the education system to create her own school, because the public/catholic system was not meeting the needs of her kids.
I said that "if her school were focused more on healing than on getting through the curriculum, then it would be like each student had their own Individualized Education Plan". She corrected me to "no, they would have their own Individualized Healing Plan" (and so would every parent and staff).
Let's take a look behind the scenes, using Soul Contract:
From a Soul Contract perspective, an Individualized Education Plan takes someone who is high frequency (10-1) and brings them down to being more mainstream (16-7).
By contracts, from a Soul Contract perspective, an Individualized Healing Plan takes someone who keeps asking others for advice, who forgets to look inside themselves for their own truth, who has a lot of frustration and anger because they can't go through the steps needed to make their creative ideas manifest in reality, putting them at risk for addiction (15-6), meeting the parts of them that may have been wounded (13-4), so they end up connected to all aspects of themselves, in a place where they can be honest about who they are, including all the things that they are still working on, with no need to mask or be perfect, loving themselves as a work in progress, giving others permission to drop their guard too, so they can work together, in a positive, open-hearted, and action-oriented way (7-7).
An Individualized Healing Plan is different from an Individualized Education Plan because it is non-judgemental. No one needs to qualify to get one, we all have a unique psychology, made up of sensitivities, needs, and life lessons, that can be placed on the table, to be actively worked on.
An Individualized Healing Plan allows anyone who reads it to have compassion for why things are hard, and it offers suggestions on how to support the person to get to the light at the end of the tunnel. It also helps parents and school staff to be on the same page. And eventually, the child can use what they understand from the Individualized Healing Plan, to advocate for their sensitivity, goals, and needs.
Kids spend so much time at school, why not use this time to learn how to help kids work through their problems, instead of piling more problems onto them, for families (and staff) to work through?
Most educators worry about having to keep track of multiple Unique Psychology Reports, especially when the kid to adult ratio is high, and they already think they know why people are the way they are. Trust me, you don't know, until you look. And not everyone is going to want to consider a Unique Psychology Report for their child.
This is why parents need to hold each child’s Unique Psychology Report, and then they can work with their child’s teacher, to identify what part of their child’s Unique Psychology is active right now, and most important to include in their current Individualized Healing Plan (which evolve as their kids evolve and the challenges change).
When a teacher/school/program embraces using these methods to support families and kids, I offer my services to the staff for free. Because, when the staff have their needs met, they understand what a difference it makes, and they are in a much better place to meet the needs of families and kids.
It is important for parents and staff to balance "yes, those are your lessons, and life lessons are hard, I will continue to support you to work through them, while also sharing with you how your actions, emotional states, and needs impact others".
An Education Plan implies that something is wrong with the child, and we need to accommodate, in order to get the information in.
A Healing Plan assumes that there are reasons why the information is not going in. It looks from a more holistic perspective. Including that what is being taught may not the person’s truth. Maybe the learning environment has something that is preventing the child from paying attention to what is being taught. Or maybe the child (or teacher) has something else that they need to deal, before they can focus on what is being taught.
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...and much more, if you look under the Parent-Child and Mental Health sections of my website
To learn how you can obtain a Unique Psychology Report, which can be used to populate an Individualized Healing Plan (or to counterbalance a mainstream report), visit: Options and Prices
I hope this helps.
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