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Navigating Frustration
You may think Anger and Frustration are the same, and I already have a page about Navigating Anger.
However, there is a slight difference between Frustration and Anger.
Frustration can come from not learning in the same way that other people do, from committing oneself to doing something that they truly do not want to do, or from trying to make things happen, when you are not designed to push (see below).
Learning style can be seen very clearly in Human Design and Soul Contract. There are also hints about learning preferences and goals in Astrology. It is important to understand your child's strengths and resistances when it comes to learning.
Some kids can not absorb certain information very easily because it is not their truth.
Yes, you can accommodate these resistances to learning by using alternative methods to get the information in (i.e., text in audio format), or by providing an environment more conducive to their learning style (i.e., fewer distractions, or letting them simply absorb the information, rather than forcing them to actively try to drill the information into their brain), but be mindful not to label these children as learning disabled.
They have their own version of the truth, which, when they are able to share it with us, will support new solutions to the problems we have created by trying to do everything the same for everyone for so long.
See Navigation Learning Disabilities for more on this topic.
As for Frustration that comes from committing to something we do not love. It is important to teach your children (and to know how to do this for yourself) to use their body to make decisions they can trust. How to do this is very clear when you look at someone's Human Design.
We are not all the same! What will bring satisfaction (success, or peace) to one person, will not necessarily bring satisfaction (success, or peace) to another.
If we want our children to be happy and to master their unique gifts and skills, we need to allow them to make their own decisions on what feels right for them to explore, and we need to show them their unique strategies that they can experiment with, so they can enjoy learning with more success and less frustration.
And finally, it is common in our society to teach our kids to push for what they want. The problem is, only 9% of us (by Human Design) are designed to push and have success doing so. The majority of people (70%) need to figure out what they want, and then look around to see what door opens for them in that direction. And 20% of people actually need a formal invitation before they can offer their services, or they will not be appreciated for their efforts, and this leads to them feeling very bitter (which can be worse than frustration).
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Here is an article that I wrote on a similar topic:
- Not all kids are apples and carrots, some of them are oranges and bananas, and others are artichokes