Imagine that you are sitting by the fire, with the person you are referring to sitting right in front of you. 

 

Put your hands out to this person, palms up, to signal that your defenses have been dropped, and that it is safe for them to talk. 

 

Look into their eyes and ask them how they feel.  

 

Wait for as long as it takes for an answer to come to you. 

 

When you are ready, click the button below to go back to the previous page, where you will be able to select the emotion, that best describes, the possible impact, of the strategy you used.